We want our 20s to be filled with milestones: to land the dream job, have the perfect partner, and live in the ideal home. But having these all at the same time can add unnecessary pressure onto ourselves, especially if we think we’re nowhere near our goals. To help you deal with your quarter-life crisis, read our reality check below.
1. Don’t overthink finding The One or getting married.
Focus on treating yourself with the love and respect you deserve. As if self-love isn’t enough, romantic love will find you faster when you’re completely happy with yourself. Relationships, after all, are not about filling an empty space; they’re about adding someone amazing into your already awesome life.2. You don’t have to know your life’s greatest passion just yet.You’re expected to know what your true passion or purpose is by now, but you’ll probably hit your thirties and forties without a clue. Maybe you won’t even find your grand passion, or maybe you’re meant to have many in your life. The point is to focus on the present. Priorities and goals change with time, but you should still be able to meet them. Let your life take its course, and you’ll get to where you need to be eventually.3. Value your opinions and ideas.If you spend the rest of your life seeking validation from other people, you’ll never feel good enough. Constantly worrying about what others think of you means you’re living for them, not for yourself. And there’s not much happiness in that.4. Aging is normal, so it shouldn’t be that big an issue. The thought of getting older, your body changing, and not recognizing yourself can be scary. But not looking as healthy or as youthful as you are now should be the least of your problems. But it’s worth noting that the skincare and haircare options available these days help delay signs of aging.If you’re worried about wrinkles, use products that contain retinol to help slow down the skin aging process. If you’re experiencing hair fall, try to live a healthier, less stressful lifestyle, and use hair products that help treat it. One of the products you can use is the Cream Silk Hair Fall Defense Conditioner. It’s designed to help make weak and brittle strands stronger from the roots to the tips.
5. Failure is a stepping stone to success.
Years from now, when you’re at the top of your game, you’ll realize that success would not have been possible had you not made mistakes, been rejected, and experienced the lowest points of your life. Failures are only failures when you don’t learn from them.Credit: Scooper Original
Contact lens technology has improved drastically since the days when your only option was putting hard plastic chips on your eyeball. But even with all the optical advancements, there are still some activities doctors recommend that you avoid while wearing contacts — and you may be surprised to hear that that list includes showering and swimming.
As a former contacts-wearer (now a full-time glasses devotee), I remember how luxurious it felt wearing contacts in the shower and actually being able to see my legs while attempting to shave them. And the same went for swimming (minus the leg-shaving). But as it turns out, I really shouldn’t have been doing either activity while wearing contacts, and you probably shouldn’t either. Lifehacker spoke with two ophthalmologists about these safety issues. Here’s what you need to know.
Your brain is arguably the most important organ in your body. Sure, there are several others that you can’t live without, but the brain controls them all. And not only does it keep your heart beating and your lungs breathing all the time, it is also the repository of everything that makes you, you. All your thoughts, feelings, and memories originate or reside in the brain.
Obviously, it is important to keep this most vital organ happy and healthy. Proper nutrition can mean the difference between a clear head with a sense of purpose and a foggy head with a sense of desperation. As a lifelong habit, healthy eating also slows the rate of aging-related cognitive decline and reduces the risk of developing dementia.
On the flip side, there are foods that are just the worst for your brain. Indulge too often and you will likely experience confusion, low mood, and slowed reaction times. In a vicious cycle, a depressed brain has poor ability to make the right decisions in order to improve.
If you know you have some bad habits, it is time to start scaling back. Your brain won’t like a massive dietary overhaul all at once, and even though you know it’s the right choice, you’ll struggle to maintain it. Instead, remove the following 7 items from your diet one by one, making a gradual shift that will protect the health of your brain for the long haul. The easiest one to quit is probably #7.
At first I was going to call this article, “10 Tips for a Productive Work Day.” But the more I thought about it the more I felt like productivity isn’t just about work. I like having a productive weekend or night at home too. (But, of course, I love a good vacation day spent doing NOTHING as well!) I would really like to have a productive life, but it’s sometimes a bit of a struggle. Here are ten tips that help me stay on track.
1. Make a to-do list. I am absolutely lost without a to-do list! I (try) to write out a list every morning just before I begin the day. I’ve also found that if I’m feeling overly anxious about a big project at work or looming deadline I sometimes make my to-do list the night before. This makes me feel like I’m getting a jump start on the day.
2. Give yourself small rewards for completing big tasks. I don’t know about you, but I am all about rewards. It might be something as little as, “Once I finish getting through all my emails I’ll go make my afternoon cup of coffee.” Little rewards don’t have to be about money or things, get creative and find small ways to motivate yourself to hustle. 🙂
3. Find ways to break up your workday (or night). I feel like I have a pretty decent attention span, but I’m not super human or anything. It’s good to break up tasks that take a long time or that are physically demanding in any way. For example, let’s say you’re a photographer and you have about five hours of editing to do one night. Work for three hours then give yourself a snack or paint your nails. Then finish up that work. Also, if you sit a lot in order to work make sure to build in a few stretch breaks into your day. You’ll feel better!
4. Avoid addictive time wasting activities. I recently confessed my love for Candy Crush Saga. I’m no stranger to time wasting activities. Facebook can be a trap. Smartphone or internet games can also get super addictive. Avoid these when you’re trying to get something done. Check your FB during the last five minutes of your work day (maybe as your reward?). Also set limits for mini “time wasting” sessions. It’s ok to need a mental break, but don’t get sucked in. For example, next time you go to check Instagram while you’re suppose to be working look at the clock first. Give yourself only 2-3 to scroll through your feed then stop.
5. Get as much done as early in the day as you can. It’s a ripple effect thing. Personally, I’m sort of morning, sort of not a morning person. You know? I have a hard time getting up in the morning! But I’ve noticed that when I do get up and get rolling on my to-do list for the day I already feel so accomplished by nine or ten in the morning that I feel confident about the rest of the day. Start your day with a bang! The momentum will keep you rolling. Then you have the evening hours to relax and unwind.
6. Tackle that really tough to-do first. I know. You don’t want to. Me neither. But once it’s done it’s done! I find that I’ll often leave a really tough or bummer to-do at the bottom of my list for days and days longer than it should have been there. And it’s just looming over me the whole time. Just do it. You’ll feel better. And then you’ll only have the easy stuff left to do.
7. Showcase your success. This is motivation fuel for the future. It’s ok to feel super pumped and proud when you complete a tough goal or finish a super long to-do list. Tell your significant other. Instagram that finished project. Call your mom. Pump your fists in the air. Celebrate—you did it!
8. Tell someone your goals. Now they are your accountability partner(s). Boom. I don’t know about you, but I am WAY more likely to finish a goal if I’ve told someone else about it. This can be as public as you like. You could tell your sister a personal goal. Or you can start a monthly blog series where you share your goals for the month (like 4 Simple Goals) and then you share progress. You decide who you want to tell, just tell someone.
9. Be realistic. We all need breaks. Plan to come back to difficult or frustrating tasks later. Sometimes things don’t come together like we’d hoped. Sometimes a task turns out to be way more physically demanding than we thought. Be honest with yourself. Take a break if you need. Just be sure to make a specific plan to come back to the project, maybe seek out some help if you need.
10. Make goal setting a habit. Maybe the whole to-do list sounds annoying, or cheesy, or overwhelming to you. Find what works for you. And don’t worry if it feels weird or even scares you a little at first. It will start to feel like a normal part of your daily life. And you’ll start to feel weird/off if you miss it. It’ll become habit, like brushing your teeth. It’s not overwhelming or annoying to remember to do this simple task twice every day. But it wasn’t always a habit, probably your parents had to remind you a lot at first. Let goal setting become a routine and positive part of your everyday life.
We believe in you! Make your life full of successes! And if you have any additional tips or specific examples of things you do to stay on track please share them with us. xo.